"I look at my children differently now."
When Allyson and her husband Miles separated, Allyson knew she wanted to protect their kids from the parental conflict. Miles was very angry and, "I was afraid of what kind of information he was giving the children. I wanted to make sure they didn’t feel like they had to take sides or were being used as pawns."
At first, she tried to introduce her kids—Andy, now seven, and Rebecca, four—to other single moms and their children. She quickly learned that it wasn’t working. "Andy said, ‘Mom, can we not tell [other kids] that daddy’s not living with us any more?’ He thought that he was the only child in the world who was going through this. That’s when I thought I had to get them to talk about their feelings with someone outside the family," she says.
She chose Families in Transition (FIT). "I liked how parents and kids were tied into each other. They would go on Saturday and I would go on Thursday."
Allyson took part in counselling and a weekly group discussion involving eight adults. The kids each had their own age-appropriate discussion groups.
Allyson’s group explored such issues as parenting schedules, how to listen to your children so that they will talk to you and how to speak so they will listen. "I felt very comfortable with [my counsellor. Even my kids did—there was no resistance to going to see her alone."
Before the separation, "Andy did more attention seeking behaviour because I was caught up in arguments with my husband. I would get so angry at Miles and I would snap at him and then I would see my daughter do that." FIT provided her with the tools to reduce conflict with her ex-husband. "The key is the two people going through the divorce have to maintain an amicable relationship or else the children sense it. Andy seeing that Miles and I are conversing and communicating helps so much. FIT also gave us guidelines on how to introduce a new partner. That was very important."
Allyson’s relationship with her kids is stronger than ever. "The different tactics I learned at FIT about how to listen and make them know that their feelings are important too – they a have a lot going on and they are pretty smart. I look at them differently now that way."
Her children are thriving because of it. "My kids are doing great. They are such happy kids. When they are with each of us they are in a happy environment now. It’s great when people come up to me and say, ‘your kids are doing so well.’ I would definitely recommend FIT."
Thank you for your impact.
The following pages celebrate FSA Toronto’s Circle of Change – the individuals, groups and organizations who invested in our work between April 1, 2006 and March 31, 2007. With their support, we were able to respond wherever the need was greatest to support individuals and families in this city and work toward building supportive communities for all in Toronto. Thanks to them, Family Service Association of Toronto has impact.
FSA Toronto greatly appreciates the generous support of staff and board members toward our agency and the United Way. Their names do not appear here to respect confidentiality.
Names appearing in bold acknowledge donors who have contributed to FSA Toronto for five years or more. Every effort has been made to ensure that names have been listed correctly. Please contact us at 416-595-9230 ext. 237 to report any errors or omissions and we will immediately update our records.
Funders
Ministry of Community and
Social Services
Ministry Responsible for Seniors
Ministry of Health
Ministry of the Attorney General
Ministry of Education
Human Resources Social
Development Canada
Public Health Canada
City of Toronto
Social and Enterprise
Development Innovations
Victoria Health Centre
Laidlaw Foundation
The Ontario Trillium Foundation
Children's Aid Society
United Way of Greater Toronto
University of Guelph
St. Clares Multifaith
Housing Society
Reconnect Mental Health
Changemakers (Gifts over $10,000)
Laidlaw Foundation
The Great Gulf Homes
Charitable Foundation
2 Anonymous Donors
Pioneers of Change ($1,000 to $9,999)
Aqueduct Foundation
Bhayana Management
Canadian Gay Open
CIBC Corporate
Communications and
Public Affairs
Sam Dicaita
Bruce Godden
Ernest Howard
ING Direct - Eileen Mercier
Richard Isaac
Junior League of Toronto
Kathryn Kennedy
Irina Loewy
Dirk McRobb
Paul & Jannie Mills
William Molson
Joyce R. Moran
Arthur Denis Morin
Yves Savoie
Daniel Segovia
Tom Stewart
Jude Tate
Diane Taylor
Robert Walsh
9 Anonymous Donors
Beacons of Change ($250 to $999)
Barbara Bamford
Mary Anne Beamish and
Mr. Philip Tunley
Bennett March Incorporated
Stanley Boudreau
Lynda H. Bowles
Ruth Budd
Carmon B. Courtney
Joan Cranston
Ian Cummins
Doone Estey
Angela Feldman
Gemstar Canada Inc
Kathryn Glazier
Randy Heaton
Patricia Hobbs
Hydro One Employees’ and
Pensioners' Charity Trust
Mary Jones
Barbara Kilbourn
Grazyna Krigstin
Mary Susanne Lamont
B.H. MacDougall
Sandra Ryder MacDougall
Ontario Hypnosis Centre
Jean Robinson
Ivan G. Robinson
Paul Schabas
R.D. (Bob) Smith
Annie Snobelen
Standard Telecom Brokers Ltd.
The Boiler Inspection and Insurance
Company of Canada
The Lawrason Foundation
Gillian Von Teichman
5 Anonymous Donors
Gift C.A.R.D.
Program Donors
The Barber Family
Billable Hours II Productions Limited
The Blecher Family
CIBC Card Products Division
CIBC Communications & Public Affairs
CIBC Private Wealth Management
CIBC-CPD
Consumer and Small Business Cards
Management
Column Financial Canada
Harlequin Enterprises Limited
The MIBRO Group
The Myers/Richmond Family
Portfolio Management
Group Risk Management
Royal Bank of Canada
Seth's Hospitality Services Inc.
SSQ Financial Group
TD Securities
ZSA Recruitment
3 Anonymous Donors
Gifts in Kind
Alliance Atlantis
Anca Sibian Skin Care Studio
Another Story Bookshop Art of You
Applecross Designs
Hennie Bekker
Borden Communications & Design
Canadian Bridge Federation
Civello
Linda Crammond
Cresendo Jewelry
Dominion College Park
Downward Dog
Dufflet Pastries
Estee Lauder
Myra Evans
Fiorio
Fortinos Lawrence Square
Ganz
Andre Garber
Give & Go
Bruce Godden
Grano Restaurant
Audrey Grant
Maureen Greenstein
Harbord Bakery
I Love Rewards
Indigo
La Senza
Laura Secord
Main Source Jewels
PricewaterhouseCoopers
Pure Health
Malcolm Ralph
Rita Rayman
Sam’s Club
Heather Shaw
Sports Clubs of Canada
Strolf at Vision
Stubbe Chocolates
Target Coaching
Dr. L. Tarshis
Kristen Thompson
Tim Hortons
Windsor Arms Spa
Wrigleys
Services Provided By
Blake, Cassels & Graydon
BAND Collective
Coopers Office Furniture
DIVORCEmate Software
Executive Furniture
Hariri Pontarini Architects
Huziak Graphics
In Harmony Video Productions
Kridan Security Inc.
Parentbooks
Pendulum Productions
Thistle Printing
Unixell Computer and Networking Services
Board Members
Anita Lapidus (President)
Miriam DiGuiseppe (Vice-President)
Harlan Schonfeld (Vice-President)
Ann Marshall (Treasurer)
Kelley Myers (Secretary)
Derek Ballantyne
Georgina Cannon
Kironmoy Datta
Jim Green
Peter Kinch
Faduma Mohamed
Fran Odette
Andrew Szende
Asaf Zohar
Ex-officio member:
Bradley Berg
Board Committees
Access and Equity
Financial Affairs
Governance
Social Action
Community Impact
Community Advisory Councils and Committees
Building Bridges Project
Advisory Committee
David Kelley Services Community
Advisory Committee
FAIR Project Advisory Committee
Friends of New Directions
GUHD Management Committee
Horn of Africa Community
Advisory Council
Iranian Community Advisory Council
New Vision for Markham Seniors Project
Advisory Committee
Tamil and South Asian Advisory Council
Seniors and Caregivers Support
Services Advisory Group
Volunteer Advisory Committee
Javed & Shaheena Akbar
Ruth Armstrong
Thank you for your impact.
The following people contributed to Campaign 2000 or Campaign
Against Child Poverty, two cross-Canada coalitions for which FSA Toronto
provides leadership and coordination.
Sydney Bacon
Mary Eden Bassett
Dawn Black
Derek and Monique Blackburn
Blessed Trinity Catholic School
Brighter Futures Coalition
Burlington Baptist Church
June Callwood
Delores Campbell
Canadian Bridge Federation Incorporated
Canadian Federation of University Women
Canadian Feed The Children
Canadian Labour Congress
Jean C. Carruthers
Sharon M. Chisholm
Citizens for Public Justice
Susan Colley and Mr. Gordon Cleveland
Congregation of the Sisters of the Presentation
Lloyd Cummings
Madeleine Desnoyers
Caroline Di Giovanni
Elementary Teachers Federation of Ontario - Toronto O. T. L
Jim Endicott
Margaret Fietz
Craig Forcese
Andre and Rhona Foucault
Vicki Frankel
Diane Gibeault
Michael Goldberg
John Gunn
Marian Hale
Christine and Jens Hansen
Rashida Haq
Peter & Vivien Ann Harris
IMPACS Institute for Media
Policy and Civil Society
Joyce Ireland
Anne Irwin
Olive Johnson
Janet Kennish
Stephen A. Kerstetter
Pat & Anna Kerwin
Ernst Kuechmeister
La Maison de Shoto Inc.
Barbara Lampert
Carole Marie Lantaigne
Marlene Leggatt
Marnie Levitt
Mary Lewis
Murray MacAdam
Julie Mathien
Mazon Canada
Edward and Grace McFarlane
Richard McLellan
Desmond and Eakin Morton
Mary Murray
Fiona Nelson
Susan Newlove
Ontario English Catholic Teachers Association
Ontario Public School Boards' Association
Ontario Secondary School Teachers Federation
Maureen Orton
Stephen and Joanne Page
Linda Palmer Nye
Al Pearlstein
Lillian Perigoe
Walter Pitman
Ron and Elizabeth Plashkes
Peter and Sandra Proulex
Kazim Qureshi
Rabbi Arthur Bielfeld
Discretionary Fund
Murray and Judy Randall
Donna Riddell
William Rozell
Paola Rozzi & Mr. Gerald Jansen
Helen D. Saravanamuttoo
Donna Schaffer Lero
Elizabeth J. Shields
Myer Siemiatycki
Albert W. Silver
Norm and Mary Jane Simon
Sisters of Providence of St. Vincent de Paul
Sisters of Service of Canada
Sisters of St. Joseph of the Diocese of London Ontario
Social Planning Council of Cambridge and North Dumfries
Social Planning Council of Sudbury
Damian Solomon
St. Johns United Church
Temple Emanuel
The Golden Craft Club
The Incorporated Synod of the Diocese of Toronto
Marilyn Thomas
Toronto Catholic District School Board
UFCW
Dominique Vaillancourt
Doug Welwood
Mary Wilson
Sonya Wu & Mr. Ron Winter
Beryl Young
Participants in Change
(Gifts up to $249)
443472 Ontario Limited
William H Abel
Margot Aird
Shirley Alcamo
Robin Alter
Roy Althouse
Anahid Amadouny
Phyllis Angel
Mary Armstrong
Carol Baker
Delores Baker
Nancy Barber
Henry Barkin
Barbara Bean
Margery Ann Bell-Montgomery
Carolyn Bennett
Patricia Bent
Elizabeth Bertram
Elaine Beutel
Esther Birenzweig
Anne Bowlby
Susan Brenninkmeyer
Judy Britnell
Jacqueline Britz
James Broad
David Brown
Julie Bulmash
C. A. Delaney Capital
Management Ltd.
Anne Cameron
Mary Ellen Campbell
S.E. Cape
Elizabeth Carr
Elizabeth Carson
Gillian Carson
Anne Carter
Joan Carter
Debra Chapman
Susan Churchill
Anne Clark
E. Jane Clark
James Clark
John Cleave
Howard Cohen
Sue Colley
D.L. & M.S. Comish
Susan Conacher
Gemma Connolly
Barbara Conway
Sophia Coolican
Gerald B. Cooper
Susie Cotton
Linda Cramond
Jennifer Cressman
Bonnie Croll
Cherie Ann Crosby
Katharine Crossgrove
Andrew Cruikshank
Erin Cullen
Judy Curry
Susan Dahlgren
Vera L. Darragh
Patricia Davidson
Diane Davies
Patricia Davies
Jeanie Davis
Jan De P. Seaborn
Honor De Pencier
Ann Diakiw
Rosemary Dick
Heather Dickson
Vito Di-Pinto
Delia Dobson
Liz Anne Dobson
Anne Donaldson
Dawn Drayton
Laura Dunn
Marilou Dziuban
Douglas Easton
Patricia Eby
Ann Ein
Diane Elder
Elizabeth Elliott
Shelagh Emmott
Lawrence Enkin
Margo Enns
Envoy Logistics
Amelia Farquharson
Margo Feferman
Helen D. Feldmann
Barbara Felstiner
Roberta Fidler
Marlo A. Finlayson
Freda Finley
Michele Fisher
Julie Foley
Jean Francis
Hilary Freeman
Susan Freeman
Mary Lou Fullerton
Mary Fulton
Shelley Gans
Nancy D. Garrow
Wilbert I. Gates
Jeff Gonick
Gillian Graham
Dina Graser
Joy Gray-Donald
Charles Green
Lucille Griff
Sue Griggs
Lucy Grigoriadis
L. M. Gruson
Bernard Gurian
Gary Hamara
Sylvia and John Hamilton
Lynda Harris
Judith Hatcher
Bill Heisler and John Wilson
Elizabeth Helbronner
D. C. Higginbotham
Lynn Hillman
Mary Lue Hinds
Betty Holmes
Lynda Horawski
Sherri Howard
Anne Hull
Margaret Hutchins
Ruth Hyatt
Ilene Hyman
Judy Ireland
Mary Jacob
Jacobson and Jacobson
Daniela Janes
Jasmin Jivraj
Anna Johnson
Judith Holzman Law Offices
Gaye Kastning
Alayne Carolyn Kato-Hamilton
Alice Kernaghan
Hyunjeong Kim
Wendy Komiotis
Cathy Labbett
Barbara Landau
Nona Larrett
Carole Laschinger
Rob Lavery
Robert Law
Alexandra Lemon
Lesley V. Lewis
Doreen Lichtenstein
Mike Lipkin
Jeffrey Lipton
Russell A. Lloyd
Lee Lockwood
Teddene Long
Fern I. Lougheed
Margaret Ann Lougheed
Kathy Low
Nancy MacDonnell
Barbara A. MacGowan
Janet G. MacInnis
Patricia MacKay
Sandra MacMillan
Susan A. MacRae
Evelyn Main
Claudia Manchester
Henry Mandelbaum
Madeline Manganelli
Patricia Marshall
Patricia Martin
Mary H. Martin
Doreen Martindale
Brenda McCutcheon
Claire McDerment
Martha Jane McDonald
Susan McDougall
Florence McErlain
McLaughlin & Kruck LLP
Margaret E. McLeish
Ria Jean McMurtry
Ann McVittie
Julia Medland
C. Mehl
Jane Mercer
Joan Mesley
Marc Michell
JunKo Mifume
Magdalena Mo
Dick Moore
Ada Morris
Sandy Morris
Lillian Moxham
Joann Moysey
William Murphy
Shirley Murray
David Musbur
Mary Nelles
Tamar Nelson
Anne Nichols
Nick and Lynn Ross
Charitable Foundation
Greta Nixon
Fran E. Nobes
Sheree North
Nancy Northgrave
Kathleen O'Grady
Donovan & Grace Olds
Ron Olsen
OPG Employees' & Pensioners' Charity Trust
Dolores O'Reilly
Michael Ostfield
Wendy Ounpuu
Julia Pankratz
Derek Paul
Rhoda Payne
Edward and Gloria Pearl
Nancy Percival
Penelope Perry
Cecile Peterkin
Kurt and Mabel Peyer
Penny Pfeiffer
Susan Pielsticker
Tanya Pimenoff
Harvin Pitch
Karen Pleasance
William Polan
Wendy C. Porritt
Jane Preston
Frances Price
Pure Health
Elaine Rakowski
Rita Rayman
Mary Reeve
Debra Reierson
Dora Rempel
Penny Richards
Larry Richards
Judith Ridout
Lee Rimon
Hazel Rivers
Ruth Robert
Imla Roberts
Damaris Robinson
Miriam J. Rogers
Ann Romeril
Toby Rose
Lynn Ross
Walter Ross
Adrianna Rossini
Michael Rotsztain
Sandra Ainsley Gallery
Erminda Santos
Lynda Sapunjis
Barbara Sargeant
Marie Schatz
Martha Schimgeour
Brian Schnurr
Mark and Julie Schonfeld
Jeanette Schonfeld
Janet Scott
Linda Scott
Carolyn Shim
Melvin Shipman
Elizabeth Short
Anca Sibian
SILAYANCC
Patricia Simpson
Mary Sinclair
Susan Sisam
Cynthia Smith
Cynthia Smith McLeod
St. Paul's United Church
Helen Stacey
Beverly Stager
John Stapleton
Dan Stapleton
Joan Stephens
Anne Stevens
Kathleen Stewart
Deborah Stewart Firestone
Chris Stirling
Jane E. Strathy
Mildred Syron
Michelle Tatay
Hedy Taylor
Sherry Taylor Drew
Barbara A. Temple
Sangarasivam Thiliyampalam
Anne Thom
Patti Thompson
Heather M. Thomson
Maureen Tingley
John Tinker
Toronto Beaches Lions Club
Lynn Totzke
Nancy Tucker
Carol Ure
Laurie Uytterlinde Flood
Charles Van Winsen
Manickampillai Velauthapillai
Gwen Vernon
Marianne Vero
Marje Virro
Beverly Wagner
Sally Wallace
Bonnie Wallace
Judith Weeks
Penny Weeks
Nancy I. Wesson
Brian & Joyce Westlake
Sharon Williams
Karen Williams Thomas
Debbie Willis
Marion Wills
Barbara Wilson
H. L. Wilson
Lynn Wilson
Marian Wood
Krista Wylie
Catherine Min Yang
Barbara Yealland
Michael Zacks
Micah Zarnke
Paul & Donna Zarnke
36 Anonymous Donors
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